Tiana Leeds, LMFT, is a Santa Barbara-based therapist for individuals and groups. She sees clients across California online and by phone. While she focuses primarily on working with women in their 20s and 30s and highly sensitive people, she welcomes clients of all ages, genders, and backgrounds.
Adulthood (sort of)
Your 20s and 30s are a time of self-discovery, big decisions, and constant change—and in today’s unpredictable (and sometimes downright overwhelming) world, that journey can feel even more intense. You’re trying to figure out who you are, what you want, and how to get there, but the ground beneath your feet keeps shifting. Some days, you're making big strides; other days, it feels like you’re just treading water—watching as everyone else moves forward and wondering if you’re being left behind.
You have a vision (or maybe just the beginnings of one) for your future, yet staying consistent with the steps to get there can be difficult—especially when distractions are everywhere (looking at you, TikTok!). You crave deep, meaningful friendships, but as life changes—new jobs, moves, relationships, marriages, and even babies—those connections shift. Sometimes, you feel like you’re on different pages, even with your closest friends. It’s tough when life stages diverge, whether it’s you or them embracing the change first.
Big life decisions may weigh heavily on you:
Is this the right college major for me?
Do I want to go back to school for a Master's or Doctorate?
Is my job truly fulfilling, or is it time for a change?
Why is dating so hard? Will I ever find my person? How can I stay hopeful?
Should I stay in this relationship or walk away?
Am I ready for marriage?
Am I ready for a baby? What if I don’t know yet? Should I freeze my eggs?
How do I even feel about bringing a baby into this world?
Am I showing up as my true self or masking who I really am?
Have I fully understood my sexual orientation, gender, cultural identity, neurotype, values, or spiritual beliefs—or is there more to explore?
How do I find balance and avoid burnout?
How do I stay informed about current events while remaining present in my own life—without feeling paralyzed, hopeless, or helpless?
It’s a lot. And it’s okay to feel overwhelmed.
But this journey doesn’t have to be so hard. With the support of a compassionate, non-judgmental professional, you can gain the clarity, confidence, and practical tools needed to navigate these transitions with greater ease and self-assurance. You don’t have to figure it all out alone—you deserve guidance, understanding, and a space to grow into the life you envision.
How I Can Help You Heal & Thrive
Calm anxiety, stress, and overwhelm with practical coping strategies.
Boost self-esteem and self-advocacy to confidently express your needs.
Navigate complex romantic and family relationships with greater ease.
Gain clarity on your goals and create a realistic path to achieve them.
Replace unhealthy habits with more adaptive coping mechanisms.
Reclaim your connection to anger—safely, without guilt. Anger can be a powerful force for change.
Improve body image and cultivate self-acceptance.
Manage ADHD symptoms and enhance focus, organization, and acceptance of your neurodivergence.
Overcome decision paralysis and build self-trust in your choices.
Alleviate depression, burnout, and emotional shutdown with supportive guidance.
Create and maintain healthy boundaries to protect your emotional well-being.
Navigate a quarter-life crisis and rediscover your sense of direction.
Establish independence from family and build confidence in your autonomy.
Reduce disordered eating patterns and heal your relationship with food.
Explore your identity with curiosity and self-compassion—unpacking your personality, values, and core beliefs to better understand who you truly are.
Reparent yourself for a healthier attachment style and stronger relationships.
